BEAUTY: "Love Your Flaws" - Is It Possible?

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The idea of loving your flaws is an intriguing one. 
On one hand, it’s a win/win situation. It’s not like it’s always possible to cover over the things you don’t like about your physical appearance. Sometimes, you’re stuck with a problem that you dislike, and that means you have two options. If you want to find any body confidence at all, then you have to find a way not only to accept, but embrace, the flaws of your body. 
On the other hand… in some cases, it’s just not possible. Sometimes, you have an issue and it’s so overbearing that the idea of “loving” it is just bizarre. In fact, it’s not just bizarre, but it’s somewhat immature to even expect it. There are numerous reasons we all have body confidence issues and those aren’t going to change overnight, nor are the societal expectations of beauty. Furthermore, you can also feel like you have somehow failed because you don’t love your flaws, you dislike them.

Here’s the real problem… why are we still calling these issues flaws?
If you tell people that they should love their flaws (as numerous advertising campaigns now attempt to do), then you’re still saying: “hey! You have a flaw! Look at that flaw! You should totally love it though, even though it’s a flaw.” 
That’s… a strange attitude to have, isn’t it? 
The simple fact is that we come in all shapes, sizes, and differences. Some of us are blessed with long, thick hair while others have hair so thin they can barely scrape together a recognisable bun. Others have a lifelong battle with cystic acne, while on the other sound, some women see clear skin as a given rather than something they have to aim for. We can be tall or short; fat or thin; curvy or waifs. That’s the benefit of being human; everyone is different. 
So here’s how a progressive attitude could take those “flaws” and actually embrace a positive, healthy way forward. 
If you want to change… that’s okay! 
If you want to do something about your perceived flaws, then you’re not doing anything wrong or failing to “fight the good fight” if you do so. If you have teeth problems and want dental veneers to improve your smile then go for it; if you want to wear heels to boost your height then that’s your business - and so on and so forth. The idea that you might want to conceal things about your body that cause insecurity isn’t wrong, and you should never feel guilty about doing so.

Accept your flaws = far healthier. 
It’s far better for your mental health if you strive to accept (rather than love) your flaws. The areas of your body you’re not happy with are a thing. They are not going to vanish overnight. And while you might never truly be comfortable with them, it’s important to accept them for what they are: a huge part of the puzzle that makes up who you are. This might take a bit of work to get to a point where you truly feel able to do this, but the rewards are rich when you get there.

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